I believe we all hold the power inside ourselves to make things work the way we want them to. I’ve been studying metaphysics and reading books by Eckhart Tolle, Dr. Wayne Dyer, Louise L. Hay, and a lot more incredible authors. They all are getting the word out that, “if we change our thoughts, we can change our life.” If we feel good inside, we can make better choices, we can attract anything we want to ourselves. I believe this to be true. If I wake up exhausted and then trip on my way to the shower, let’s just say I’m already pretty pissed off. Then the water goes cold, which makes me more upset. Everything keeps getting worse and worse, because I’m basically expecting it to at this point. But, what if I decided to ignore that feeling? So what if the water is cold, and now I’m stuck in traffic. If I feel like I can handle it, I can make a joke about it. Then the next thing I know, I’m having an amazing day, just because I turned my thoughts around. I know firsthand what it feels like to be positive rather than negative. Positivity brings you joy, relaxation, comfort, and hope. It’s funny too because people will think they are proving you wrong by saying if I’m having a shitty day it just wont get better by changing my thoughts, that’s ridiculous. But what they are actually doing is proving you right. They are staying in that negative mind frame. By stating your day wont get better, and that you’ll just be in a bad mood is making it true. Breathe, count to 10, and start shifting your thoughts. Put an upbeat song on, think of a puppy, say to yourself “all is well”. Now, you’re changing that thought pattern. You can acknowledge something that is bothering you, and feel that sudden anger, but then you have to try to let it go. Somehow you have to tell yourself, things will get better. This is just one moment, and I can choose to react differently to it. Trust me, I’m guilty of it. I got a letter the other day saying I owe over 5,000 dollars in taxes for a business I don’t even own. I was fuming, enraged, and so overwhelmed. After taking a breath and finding out more about what I could do to fix this problem, it ended up working out in my favor. Had I just stayed calm and not initially reacted to it, I would have saved myself an hour of unnecessary worry and anxiety, but of course even I struggle with staying present and positive.
Do you ever look back at your life and think of those moments where you freaked out? Those moments where you got so worked up it ruined your entire night? Was it worth it? Seriously ask yourself, could you have reacted differently? I’ve had moments, especially as a waitress, where I’ve literally cried in front of customers, or have gotten so mad, I’ve left work in tears. It’s inevitable to feel pain, to feel hurt, to feel as if you aren’t being heard, especially in the workplace. But I know now, looking back, I could have reacted differently and not let it affect me on such a deep emotional level. I know by shifting perspective, by shifting my thoughts, I could have walked away from the customer yelling at me, or gotten someone else to help the woman screaming at me. Of course, in the moment, it’s quite hard to know what to do. And I take things personally. But at the end of the day, in the grand scheme of things called life, it doesn’t matter. Look, no one wants to be yelled at by anyone. No one wants to be treated unfairly, no one wants that. But being argumentative, trying to prove yourself right, trying to defend yourself to someone who is clearly not having it, just walk away. Think to yourself, I’m better than this. I’m calm, I’m here, and I can choose better right now, in this moment. Whatever the situation may be. Now, don’t get me wrong, if you are at a peace rally, or fighting for justice in the world, by all means speak up. Say what you feel, what is inside of you. Be strong, and Be bold. I’m talking about the petty things in life we let get to us. We get so mad about the little things. This bill, that bill. My car won’t start. I’m fat, I’m broke, I hate my job, etc. But we have to change the way we think and the words we use when we speak. To live a better life, to live a happy life, we must be grateful for what we already have. We must trust that the universe is working in our favor and that the path we are on is leading us to learn and grow. We must believe, and be confident that the good things are coming to us. Now people will argue that this can’t be because, well, look at my bank account. How do I love a job I hate? I have bills to pay. Etc. This is where the tricky part comes in. Start believing you have enough money, start believing your job is wonderful. Start believing in the unseen. Does it mean you’ll wake up tomorrow and magically see money on your front door step, no. It means that your positive energy will attract things in your life that will bring you more positivity. You may get a random check in the mail from something that was owed to you, let the universe worry about that. You may notice that people at work you don’t get along with suddenly quit, or you get a raise out of the blue. Maybe you’re sitting in bed one night and have a brilliant idea about opening up your own business. Some of my best ideas have come when I’ve been completely still, meditating, and I’m saying affirmations to myself. Now, the same goes for dieting. Start saying I love my body, I love feeling healthy and fit, I crave healthy foods. Do you know why you’ll start losing the weight if you want to? Because you’re tricking yourself with your thoughts and words, and most likely you’ll start eating better. When you shift your thoughts, when you shift your words, you can create the life you want. You are your own creator. Life can be hard and scary, but what are you going to do about it? Are you going to let it ruin you or are you going to take control? Let the Universe know who you are and what you want. And sit back and trust that all is well. Trust that life is working for you, not against you. And in those moments of doubt, breathe, count to ten, and start shifting your thoughts.